Hi Patti how are ya?
We are still
enjoying our time immensely. We are in Byron Bay again we've been back here for 2 weeks now and it has been awesome.
The weather has been very good really hot but not too hot. We've only had 2 cloudy days here so far. I'll send
some pics when i go to the internet place that allows you to send pics. I got your email about the mothers day thing
so here's my contribution for it, i hope it is along the lines of what your looking for:
As you are aware Derek
was my best friend and we shared many many awesome times together. I'm pretty sure in the time since grade 2 up until
the last time we hung out we never had a fight or any noteable disagreements. We got along great and were birds of the
same feather when it came to the majority of things (mainly partying and girls!). I have so many stories and memories
about the situations and places we got ourselves into you'd have to have a separate card just for me. Basically, getting
to know Derek so well and being friends with him for such a long time, however not long enough, makes me a very lucky person
as we had uncountable good times together. I always thought that it would be Derek that would be with me travelling
but the more i think about it the more i realize that he is always with us. I say a little 'what's up' to him every
night and i know he's listening and helping me out in any way possible whenever he can, especially at the bar .
kind of odd happened the other day as a matter of fact. I had 3 pictures in my wallet; one of my sister, one of a girl
from home, and the one you gave me of Derek. I got my wallet wet and the other pictures ran and got ruined but the one
of Derek stayed perfectly fine besides the wrting on the back. All of the pictures were in the exact same slot in my
wallet. Although he is gone he will never leave us and I personally can and will never forget him!
Mothers Day Patti!
I've had a hard time putting down in words how I feel
about Derek. But for Mother's Day, I'll try my best.
First and foremost, he was and always will be family to
us. As are you and Steph, of course. Although in the last couple years we didn't see him a lot, he was still around
for most special occastions. We have all become so close, and it's very hard to lose one of our own.
We spent so much time together as the kids were growing
up; and enjoyed all of Derek's antics. There's not one incident or time that I particularly remember, just his
impish grin and twinkle in his eyes. He was full of life!
You did such a great job bringing him up on your own and
he turned out into such a fine young man. It seems he was a good friend to many. What a difference from the little
rascal we had to put up with in Church. Man, those were trying times.
As you know, his untimely death has affected me greatly
as well. There has been many changes to my life because of it. I must say that it has brought us so much closer,
and our friendship is something I (and you) will always treasure and can thank Derek for.
I can only hope that Derek and Colin are in a much better
place and we will eventually join them. They are always watching over you and routing for you. I love and miss
I do not know where to begin... only to
say that Derek was an amazing person. There are so many times I remember about him, the skateboard/ bike ramp across the street,
thinking, Oh God the next time hes going to whip out! The time he called the Hicks' house after snowboarding, and I happened
to be there. Calling and telling me that he thought he had broken his arm, and turned out he had! (I think that was second
or third time??) And of course the times we bleached his hair in your kitchen every couple of months, I'd get to catch up
on his life...and girlfriends! Although I wasn't his closest friend, he had a way of making you feeling that you were when
you were with him! I find myself telling clients of mine about him if we are talking about snowboarding or skateboarding.
I have a couple of pictures of him around the house here, and find it comforting to see them!
I hope these memories of mine will comfort you just a
little for Mother's Day, Patti. Remember that we love you! and think about you lots!
Love Melissa ((((HUGS))))
To My Dear Friend Patti,
I have always loved this thought it's by ERMA BOMBECK
and would like to share it with you "In Memory of Derek" and to all Moms on Mothers Day!
A Child's Angel
Once upon a time,there was a child ready
to be born. "HE ASKED GOD:"They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small
GOD:"Among the many angels,I chose one especially
for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you."
CHILD:"But tell me,here in Heaven,I don't
do anything else but sing and smile,and that's enough for me to be happy. Will I be happy there?"
GOD:"Your angel will sing for you and will
also smile for you every day. You will feel your angel's love and be happy."
CHILD:"How am I going to be able to understand
when people talk to me if I don't know the language that men talk?"
GOD:"Your angel will tell you the most beautiful
and sweet words you will ever hear.With much patience and care,your angel will teach you how to speak."
CHILD:"And what am I going to do when I want
to talk to you?"
GOD:"Your angel will place your hands together
and will teach you how to pray."
CHILD:"I've heard that on earth there are
bad men.Who will protect me?:
GOD:"Your angel will defend you even if it
means risking her own life."
CHILD:"But I will always be sad because I
will not see you anymore."
GOD:"Your angel will always talk to you about
me and will teach you the way to come back to me,even though I will always be next to you."
At that moment there was much peace in Heaven,but
voices from earth could already be heard. THE CHILD,IN A HURRY,ASKED SOFTLY:
"Oh God,if I am about to leave now,please
tell me my angel's name."
GOD:"Your angel's name is of no importance.
You will call your angel......'MOMMY'
No one can MAKE me stop LOVING my kid's
and I tell them that everynight before I go to sleep. Anyway, keep your chin up and I will be thinking about you on Mother's
Day and to all other Mother's that feel the same as I do.
So sorry that I took so long to respond to your request.
I will send this to you rather than to the other web site
as I am a techno-tard and may screw it up. The thing that I will always remember about Derek is that impish grin of
his. You never knew what he was thinking( only good thoughts I am sure) He wore that grin from kindergarten through
to DSS. With that twinkle in his eye, it became very apparent early on that Derek would be a lady killer and he did not disappoint!
It was always amazing to me that he referred to us as " Mr. and Mrs." even though we had known him for so long.
raised two very well mannered kids and you should be a very proud Mom.
Earl will always remember picking up
Derek for soccer...he'd come flying out of the house with a piece of toast in one hand and his soccer boots in the other.
Earl also remembers Derek being encouraging to his teammates,
never giving them a bad time if they made a mistake
and always having a positive attitude no matter what. Derek was very special. All you have to do is think of that
great smile and the memories come flying back to you.
Use these memories as you wish,Patti, and include them
for your Mother's Day book.
What a wonderful gift to yourself from Derek.
I was on my way to work in Tswassen and had stopped
for a red light at the intersection of Ladner Trunk Road and Hwy 17. Being that this is a long light, my mind had slipped
into a bit of a trance. I was jolted back to reality by someone in the car next to me bellowing out "Hi Betsy!"
I tucked my heart back into place, I looked over to see Derek's big, mischievous smile. I grinned and waved at him as I said
"you little buggar!" Right then, the light changed and we went our seperate ways, Derek laughing as he drove off.
this was the last time I saw Derek. I'm sure there are many of us who last saw Derek with that big smile on his face - it
was such an integral part of him!
Best wishes for Mother's Day, Patti!
name: Lucas Christopher Ross
I would like to tell you what a wonderful son you have!
I arrived here in heaven before Derek and I was so glad when he got here, although I know that it hurt you so very much for
him to go to his new home. But just to let you know, he only left you physically. Derek and I have become wonderful
friends and we have also become very good at visiting those we love. So you might want to keep a watchful eye on Mother's
Day because I think that Derek has something special planned. We've got so many stories to tell you when you get here.
Well, gotta go, supposed to meet Derek on Cloud 9 a.s.a.p.
See you soon.
p.s. Tell my mom I love her.
Luke, Derek's friend in Heaven
From: Jackie - Derek's Aunt
Subject: Mother's day
In response to your Mother's Day request
- I'm sorry, but I just can not bring myself to writing down all the fabulous memories of Derek. It still hurts.
I must admit, you are a very strong person to keep reliving everything.
I have been keeping in touch with
Stephanie and asking her how you have been since Colin's passing. I think of you often and how you must be feeling,
but find it so hard to call as I am still dealing with Derek's loss.
I know in time, we will all be ok.
in my thoughts,
We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't be seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised... I am sore,
this cord is my lifeline
As never before.
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!
adapted from a poem orignally by Terri Apostolakos
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