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Signs from Above !??
AERIAL TOUR - SEPT. 28, 2002
Celebration of Life - Pamphlet
2003 / 2004
Derek's Tattoo's
Contact Me
Hi Patti how are ya?
We are still enjoying our time immensely.  We are in Byron Bay again we've been back here for 2 weeks now and it has been awesome.  The weather has been very good really hot but not too hot.  We've only had 2 cloudy days here so far.  I'll send some pics when i go to the internet place that allows you to send pics.  I got your email about the mothers day thing so here's my contribution for it, i hope it is along the lines of what your looking for:
As you are aware Derek was my best friend and we shared many many awesome times together.  I'm pretty sure in the time since grade 2 up until the last time we hung out we never had a fight or any noteable disagreements.  We got along great and were birds of the same feather when it came to the majority of things (mainly partying and girls!).  I have so many stories and memories about the situations and places we got ourselves into you'd have to have a separate card just for me.  Basically, getting to know Derek so well and being friends with him for such a long time, however not long enough, makes me a very lucky person as we had uncountable good times together.  I always thought that it would be Derek that would be with me travelling but the more i think about it the more i realize that he is always with us.  I say a little 'what's up' to him every night and i know he's listening and helping me out in any way possible whenever he can, especially at the bar . 
Something kind of odd happened the other day as a matter of fact.  I had 3 pictures in my wallet; one of my sister, one of a girl from home, and the one you gave me of Derek.  I got my wallet wet and the other pictures ran and got ruined but the one of Derek stayed perfectly fine besides the wrting on the back.  All of the pictures were in the exact same slot in my wallet.  Although he is gone he will never leave us and I personally can and will never forget him!
Happy Mothers Day Patti!
With Love,
Well Patti,
I've had a hard time putting down in words how I feel about Derek.  But for Mother's Day, I'll try my best.
First and foremost, he was and always will be family to us.  As are you and Steph, of course.  Although in the last couple years we didn't see him a lot, he was still around for most special occastions.  We have all become so close, and it's very hard to lose one of our own.
We spent so much time together as the kids were growing up;  and enjoyed all of Derek's antics.  There's not one incident or time that I particularly remember, just his impish grin and twinkle in his eyes.  He was full of life!
You did such a great job bringing him up on your own and he turned out into such a fine young man.  It seems he was a good friend to many.  What a difference from the little rascal we had to put up with in Church.  Man, those were trying times.
As you know, his untimely death has affected me greatly as well.  There has been many changes to my life because of it.  I must say that it has brought us so much closer, and our friendship is something I (and you) will always treasure and can thank Derek for.
I can only hope that Derek and Colin are in a much better place and we will eventually join them.  They are always watching over you and routing for you.  I love and miss them both. 
Love Dawn
Location: Calgary
Dear Patti,
I do not know where to begin... only to say that Derek was an amazing person. There are so many times I remember about him, the skateboard/ bike ramp across the street, thinking, Oh God the next time hes going to whip out! The time he called the Hicks' house after snowboarding, and I happened to be there. Calling and telling me that he thought he had broken his arm, and turned out he had! (I think that was second or third time??) And of course the times we bleached his hair in your kitchen every couple of months, I'd get to catch up on his life...and girlfriends! Although I wasn't his closest friend, he had a way of making you feeling that you were when you were with him! I find myself telling clients of mine about him if we are talking about snowboarding or skateboarding. I have a couple of pictures of him around the house here, and find it comforting to see them!
I hope these memories of mine will comfort you just a little for Mother's Day, Patti. Remember that we love you! and think about you lots!
Love Melissa ((((HUGS))))
To My Dear Friend Patti,
I have always loved this thought it's by ERMA BOMBECK  and would like to share it with you "In Memory of Derek" and to all Moms on Mothers Day!
A Child's Angel
Once upon a time,there was a child ready to be born. "HE ASKED GOD:"They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?
GOD:"Among the many angels,I chose one especially for you. She will be waiting for you and will take care of you."
CHILD:"But tell me,here in Heaven,I don't do anything else but sing and smile,and that's enough for me to be happy. Will I be happy there?"
GOD:"Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you every day. You will feel your angel's love and be happy."
CHILD:"How am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don't know the language that men talk?"
GOD:"Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear.With much patience and care,your angel will teach you how to speak."
CHILD:"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"
GOD:"Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."
CHILD:"I've heard that on earth there are bad men.Who will protect me?:
GOD:"Your angel will defend you even if it means risking her own life."
CHILD:"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."
GOD:"Your angel will always talk to you about me and will teach you the way to come back to me,even though I will always be next to you."
At that moment there was much peace in Heaven,but voices from earth could already be heard. THE CHILD,IN A HURRY,ASKED SOFTLY:
"Oh God,if I am about to leave now,please tell me my angel's name."
GOD:"Your angel's name is of no importance.
You will call your angel......'MOMMY'
 No one can MAKE me stop LOVING my kid's and I tell them that everynight before I go to sleep. Anyway, keep your chin up and I will be thinking about you on Mother's Day and to all other Mother's that feel the same as I do.
Love ya,
Hi, Patti.
So sorry that I took so long to respond to your request. 
I will send this to you rather than to the other web site as I am a techno-tard and may screw it up.  The thing that I will always remember about Derek is that impish grin of his.  You never knew what he was thinking( only good thoughts I am sure)  He wore that grin from kindergarten through to DSS. With that twinkle in his eye, it became very apparent early on that Derek would be a lady killer and he did not disappoint!  It was always amazing to me that he referred to us as " Mr. and Mrs."  even though we had known him for so long.
You raised two very well mannered  kids and you should be a very proud Mom. 
Earl will always remember picking up Derek for soccer...he'd come flying out of the house with a piece of toast in one hand and his soccer boots in the other.   
Earl also  remembers Derek being encouraging to his teammates,
never giving them a bad time if they made a mistake and always having a positive attitude no matter what.   Derek was very special. All you have to do is think of that great smile and  the memories come flying back to you. 
Use these memories as you wish,Patti, and include them for your Mother's Day book. 
What a wonderful gift to yourself from Derek.
Janice Begg
Betsy West
Location: Delta
I was on my way to work in Tswassen and had stopped for a red light at the intersection of Ladner Trunk Road and Hwy 17. Being that this is a long light, my mind had slipped into a bit of a trance. I was jolted back to reality by someone in the car next to me bellowing out "Hi Betsy!"
After I tucked my heart back into place, I looked over to see Derek's big, mischievous smile. I grinned and waved at him as I said "you little buggar!" Right then, the light changed and we went our seperate ways, Derek laughing as he drove off.
Sadly, this was the last time I saw Derek. I'm sure there are many of us who last saw Derek with that big smile on his face - it was such an integral part of him!
Best wishes for Mother's Day, Patti!
Love, Betsy

name: Lucas Christopher Ross
Location: Heaven
I would like to tell you what a wonderful son you have!  I arrived here in heaven before Derek and I was so glad when he got here, although I know that it hurt you so very much for him to go to his new home.  But just to let you know, he only left you physically.  Derek and I have become wonderful friends and we have also become very good at visiting those we love. So you might want to keep a watchful eye on Mother's Day because I think that Derek has something special planned.  We've got so many stories to tell you when you get here.   
Well, gotta go, supposed to meet Derek on Cloud 9 a.s.a.p.  See you soon.
p.s.  Tell my mom I love her. 
Luke, Derek's friend in Heaven
From: Jackie - Derek's Aunt
Subject: Mother's day
Hi Patti,
In response to your Mother's Day request - I'm sorry, but I just can not bring myself to writing down all the fabulous memories of Derek.  It still hurts.  I must admit, you are a very strong person to keep reliving everything. 
I have been keeping in touch with Stephanie and asking her how you have been since Colin's passing.  I think of you often and how you must be feeling, but find it so hard to call as I am still dealing with Derek's loss.
I know in time, we will all be ok.
Your in my thoughts,


The Cord

We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.

It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't be seen
By any on Earth.

This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.

I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.

The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.

It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.

And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart
I am bruised... I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.

I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!

adapted from a poem orignally by Terri Apostolakos




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